Impressions

BC and I are back in San Francisco, where, really, I look 10 years younger than I did in New York.  I think it’s the predominance of grays and blues in New York, which are just not part of the flattering side of my color chart, a deficiency of green and beige, the near absence of pastels.  Upon getting home, I immediately threw on a pink shirt and pulled out my neti pot and washed that city right out of my nose.

Our last day in NYC was spent visiting the galleries in Chelsea, where we didn’t see much to blog about, except for Lisa Yuskavage’s fabulous show at David Zwirner, where green was dominant, her bosomy babes nestled in verdant landscapes, legs spread, a pie in the face…  Her mastery over paint and technique forces an engagement with such disturbing imagery, well, disturbing to this homosexualist, and an inquisitiveness into unraveling the almost cinematically spurting content.

Having never been to the United Nations, we walked over from Chelsea.  They wouldn’t let us see much, as it was a weekend, and what a dump.  The walls were seeping, the grand side entry was completely covered up with security tents, no curatorial will exerted over the awful member nation “gifts” stuffed into every nook and cranny… Isn’t there a feng shui person on staff?  This is not the qi of international progress.

We continued our walk back to Times Square and bought tickets for one more show, Impressionism starring Jeremy Irons and Joan Allen.  The play seeks to create a theatrical and romantic equivalent of the impressions that the painters of the late 19th century sought to capture on canvas.  Unfortunately, the only impressions left on us were closer to those of branding irons.  Message after message was seared into the flesh of the helpless audience.  We didn’t find out until after that people had been walking out during intermission while the show was still in previews, so the producers cut the play and eliminated intermission.  We were trapped!  But Barbara Walters was in the audience! When she walked in, just a few seconds before the curtain went up, all heads turned her way and you could hear whispered “Barbara” “Babawa” “Baabaa” like little sheep.

Kippenberger, Cupcakes, Kings

BC and I checked out the Martin Kippenberger exhibition at MoMA today. It’s a really great show for people with limited attention spans, as he didn’t really stick to any one style or subject for too long, and the vastness of his output is quite entertaining, and he appeals to those who like to read wall labels and delve into the artist’s intent, as most of the work is saturated with meaning and references to art historical figures and movements. It seems very much like he was dealing with the last days of modernism as well as his own life. The last body of work on view at the museum is his reworking of the Raft of the Medusa, paintings and prints that convey a sense of an artist trying to come to terms with the past but unable to hang on, with little of the humor or irony of the earlier work—very powerful and moving.

Tonight we saw Eugene Ionesco’s fantastic Exit the King at the Barrymore Theatre, starring Susan Sarandon, Geoffrey Rush, and Lauren Ambrose. Susan Sarandon tells her husband, the king, “You are going to die in an hour and a half. You are going to die at the end of this play.” The comic absurdity of the narrative somehow manages also to be emotionally wrenching, the story basically about a man, the king, learning to die.

New York to me is the smell of creosote and cigarette smoke. And Magnolia cupcakes.

Brücke, Bonnard, Becco, and Broadway with Balding BC

BC and I started the day at the Neue Galerie, to see an exhibition of works by the Brücke, an early 20th Century group of artists who ushered in German Expressionism with their utopian scribbly primary-colored green-peopled bridge between past and future post-impressionism.  Downstairs I spent most of my time oogling the Josef Hoffmann objects from the Wiener Werkstätte, and the beautiful Klimt and eerily beautiful Schiele paintings.  Across the street at the Met, we viewed an exhibition of late interiors by Pierre Bonnard, made over a 20 year period in which neither his palette, subject matter, nor style changed in the slightest.  They are dazzling works of color and form, and the compositions made me more aware of framing than any art in recent memory.  For instance, lines of painted surfaces are almost always parallel to the lines of the picture frame.  He even alters rules of perspective to bend this table or that window into proper alignment.  The compositions are also crammed into the picture space, creating a claustrophobic visual and sensual experience of light, fruit and french charcuterie.

For dinner we went to Lidia Bastianich’s Becco on W. 46th.  We shared a perfect Caesar salad and mixed appetizers including a squid salad, poached swordfish, marinated beans and miscellaneous vegetables.  For our primi piatti, we each had the presso fisso meal, which included 3 pastas each: an asparagus risotto; rigatoni with tomato and basil; and fettuccine with a bolognese meat sauce.  Desert for two was like desert for 10 in San Francisco and consisted of a ricotta cheesecake, bread pudding, passionfruit sorbet, vanilla panna cotta… and I’m sure some other fabulously tasty thing that I’m forgetting about.  There is so much pleasure in her cooking and so much flavor.  You can’t go there and not overeat.

The women sitting next to us at Becco were straight out of The Sopranos.  One sounded exactly like Rosalie Aprile.  The waiter even called her “Ro!”  I couldn’t tell if her name was given by her parents or non-ironic viewers of the show.  The two from New Jersey loudly discussed how lucky they were to be surviving in this economy with only two houses each.  “We are so lucky, Ro.”

Continuing with the Sopranos theme, we then went to see James Gandolfini, Marcia Gay Harden, Jeff Daniels and Hope Davis in Yasmina Reza’s God of Carnage.  What a knockout play!  Two couples get together to discuss a fight that their kids had.  They try very sincerely to be nice to each other, but end up drunk, mercilessly tearing into each other, and nearly destroying the apartment.  And 50 tulips.

On to the theater

Big Chrissy and I are in the Big Apple again. We arrived a few hours ago, dropped off our luggage and made our way to see Angela Lansbury, Rupert Everett, Christine Ebersole and Jayne Atkinson in the revival of Noël Coward’s Blithe Sprit at the Shubert. It was delightfully entertaining, with Angela Lansbury performing a pre-trance sort of egypto-jig that had the crowd roaring. Rupert Everett is still as intoxicatingly handsome as he was 30 years ago, and he looks exactly the same. At least from row “R.” The play’s queasy content—astral bigamy, murder, infidelity—are wittily folded into the farcical narrative and delivered for nothing but giggles.

New York stinks. It’s dirty and smelly and everybody wears black and smokes and I’m so happy to be here.

Book Group, Shame

Emily relocated her book group to my house last night, so I was finally able to attend. We discussed a recent issue of Cabinet devoted to the theme of shame. Most of the discussion centered around shame and guilt; the distinction between the two, their manifestations, depictions and expressions. I was eager to talk about nudity and shame, but Emily kept steering us to the death of capitalism. Like she always does.

My Foreign Correspondent and I have become quite entranced with each other. We have yet to meet, as he’s still on another continent, but of the nearly 7 billion people to choose from, I can imagine loving no other. Suddenly everything that was out of sync with the men I’ve been dating is apparent: they weren’t he. He’s happy and sweet and smart and beautiful. My sense of irony is gone. Sincerity and cliché have settled over me. Meaning is different, it suddenly has location and focus. I’m dancing en pointe through a Botticelli landscape strewn with flowers and prancing putti, my pudgy paramour reaching to me from the clouds, my naked and suddenly slim again quattrocento body warmed by the light emanating from his divine stubbled face.

Davide and a Mini Experimental Home Film-Fest

Davide is visiting from NYC.  As he might have to move back to Italy next month, he’s boinking all of the guys he lusted after when he lived here, and annoyingly, they’re all totally my type and have made themselves completely accessible to him.  And not me.  Of course, my pearl-beyond-all-price is collecting dust while my Palestinian paramour is hashing out his visa issues in Arabia, so I shouldn’t be jealous, I mean annoyed, okay I mean jealous, but still, I’m annoyed.  I mean jealous.

Last night we had pizza and then a mini experimental homo film-fest at the CocoPlex.  We started with Dean Smith’s beguiling thought forms, then Cocteau’s Blood of a Poet, and then finally James Bidgood’s Pink Narcissus.  It was a thrilling evening of visually and conceptually stimulating flickers of light, ideas, and flesh.  If you haven’t seen Pink Narcisssus, and you’re a baby gay, or a baby art fag, see it today.  It was filmed over seven years in Bidgood’s tiny apartment on 8mm, an orgy of color and form and homo-erotic desire and fantasy, with dizzying dissolves and the tightest pants you’ll ever see.

Trouble in the Middle East, Porn Theater

I received a most peculiar call this morning, from a guy in Tel Aviv who, while searching for pictures of the bear porn überstar Jack Radcliffe, somehow came across me and decided that I was the one for him. Jack Radcliffe… or me? I’d go with Jack, honey.

I told my other middle eastern admirer, who was rather ruffled by the perceived competition. So I go for months without a date, and suddenly my love life is the cause of a new conflict in the Middle East. If only the other conflicts there could be solved with copious amounts of sex.

And speaking of copious amounts of sex, check out Jacques Nolot’s Porn Theater, an amazing film that I saw with Dean Smith the other night. Inside the theater, the camera, from the perspective of the screen, slowly pans back and forth, providing glimpses of these often wordless seductions between the men in the theater and the drag queens who circle endlessly around the auditorium.  Outside the theater, another kind of seduction is going on between the middle-aged female cashier who’s seen it all, the young projectionist, and an older gay man who alternates between engaging with them and the men inside.  So you see people connecting sexually on the inside of the theater through a very specific pared-down almost theatrical and very graphic interaction, then you see the three at the box office connecting in a different way, deeply, through language and the intimacy of shared experience.  The film ends with the three walking away together for a drink, but we know they’re going to end up sharing more, the perfect ending to this X-rated fairy tale.

Coco takes a cruise on the Love Boat

I’ve had a personal ad on mygaydar.com for some time now, but guys there seem to conform to a less voluptuous, almost emaciated, and certainly less furry physical type than catches my eye, so I don’t check my messages there very often.  When I logged on in January, after an absence of several months, there was a message from a stunningly beautiful man saying he was visiting SF in December and wanted to meet me for tea, that he was interested in getting to know me. You know, my idea of a stunningly beautiful man—plump and hairy, with deep dark wells for eyes. Well, he was back in Arabia(!) by the time I got his note, but I responded anyway, and he wrote back to say that he was moving to San Francisco in a few weeks!

We’ve been virtually inseparable since.  That is, united by digital streams of information and longing but not proximity.  He’s smart and sweet and effusive. His behavior sometimes reminds me of the subconscious that I try to keep contained—his spills out at my feet, no mediation between desire and expression. He might not be real yet, but his intensity, thoughtfulness, and affection are realer than anything I’ve experienced in my life.

But wait, my Foreign Correspondent lives on the other side of the world, we don’t really know each other, and love is determined by such subtleties of attraction, and those subtleties are contingent on actually meeting and touching and interacting directly, right? and whatchyoutalkinbout love for, Willis?  I want to blurt out “Come live with me and be my love And we will all the pleasures prove” but I restrain myself—well, okay, maybe not too restrained—but knowing that my feelings are intensified by my longing, my desire to be with someone like him, but that who he is isn’t knowable yet.

But I won’t restrain myself with you, dear reader… I’m in love I’m in love I’m in love I’m in love I’m in love I’m in love I’m in love I’m in love I’m in love I’m in love with a won-der-ful guy!!! …I mean, “I should be singing that I think I’m in love I’m in love I’m in love I’m in love I’m in love I’m in love I’m in love I’m in love I’m in love I’m in love with a potentially won-der-ful guy!”  Could happiness fall into my lap so effortlessly? Could he really be the one that I’ve been waiting for my entire life?  Who knows, we might not be each other’s cup of tea when we actually meet…

Who am I kidding? There’s no way that we won’t fall in love.

I try to keep things in perspective, like these feelings of love for someone who’s only a jpeg and a voice and a few words. I mean, we don’t know each other yet. But he’s different from the rest.  Did I ever think I’d say that?  Haven’t I seen all the movies where the guys they say that about end up truly not being different except that they’re psychopaths?  He isn’t different, actually—different from the rest, yes, but he’s like me.  This is what excites me so.  Somebody like me.

Here’s an excerpt from a recent note from him:

I can’t control it anymore, i can not be for anyone but you, Habibi… I love each single thing in you… Babe, i am not afraid to tell you that you have me all of me… You own my fantazies now when i am alone soon you will own the reality of my life.

Could you believe, dear reader, that I am the object of this beautiful man’s affection?  Are you as excited as I?  His lowercase i’s are just adorable. I certainly hope we like each other, I mean, after already falling in love.

Stay tuned, and fasten your seatbelts!

Step into the “light!”

I’m starting this new photo project.  Well, I don’t know if I’d call it a project yet—let’s call it an investigation.  I’ve been photographing light reflecting off of water, focusing on the space between what’s being photographed and the camera, rather than on what is reflecting the light.  Inspired by the Stan Brakhage films that Konrad showed during my and Dean’s Smith’s exhibitions at Meridian, I feel that I want to explore the absence of subject matter, to distill the photographic process into an experience of light and film.  And me.

Although, really, I’m not very excited about these “light” pictures, not feeling very engaged yet.  Dean called a little while ago and urged me on, so I’ll continue my investigation, but I think it’s back to the body for me…  Maybe light and the body?  We’ll see, I think I have to play a bit and then a project will fall into place.  And maybe my Foreign Correspondent will get here soon and I’ll have some fresh furry inspiration.